Family - The way to love

When God writes your love story..



It's a book that has touched my heart on many counts, it has changed my thoughts on dating and marriage. Practising faithfulness for my future husband, keeping myself physically, emotionally and spiritually pure for him. These are things that I got out of the book. As I reach the last few chapters of the book, I am again, blown away by new insights.



Family.



It's not just about how your family plays a part in your decision on choosing the right one, and not about how your future spouse interacts with them. It is the notion that the way you treat your family will be the exact same way you treat your spouse.



I have to be honest here, I'm no saint. I find it a lot harder to be gracious to my family when they make a mistake than it is to others and even to strangers. Possibly cause I tend to expect more from them and expecting them to be near perfect, while others, I have not much concern for. Yes. I think everyone has this problem, we might be a bit more short fused with our parents, brothers and sisters yet, when we're with strangers and friends, we're more tolerant.



That's where I got an "aha" moment. Your spouse will be a part of your family and you will inherently treat them the same way you treat your family, because behaviour comes with practice.

Given the fact that all loving and lasting relationships are built upon the foundations of God's word, tenderness, tolerance, forgiveness and love, shouldn't we start loving our family, people closest to us, the same way we would love our spouse.

As I write this post, I too am struggling to keep up with these new insights, keeping my heart for the man I'm going to spend the rest of my life with isn't the easiest thing. Especially when it's a guy that tugs at my heartstrings that I didn't even know exist, it's easy to fall into the whole wave of emotions, but trusting and leaving it up to God and His time, would be the best way to have a perfect picture in the end. Don't get me wrong, it's not easy.. Not easy at all, but we have to keep faith that the Lord knows best and to know that it will be perfect in His time, because the sweeter song and the beautiful side of love is written by Him and in His time, the one who created love will script the most romantic love story when we allow Him to.