Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Garments of the Lord

I've had a valuable weekend. To be taught a lesson on graciousness and love. SMA conference was such a blessing, just speaking to people in my profession, Christian dentists who uphold the value of Christian healthcare, who live by the word and for the word in our profession. It's not just about being a Christian in healthcare, but being Christian Healthcare. Doing every single thing for the Lord and through the Lord. 


I have often just relied on my own strength to achieve something, but how silly of me to think that God doesn't care about the little things I do. He does. He cares about every single thing that I do in dentistry, He'll use every moment to bless others and to show others His grace. It's not me in dentistry, I'm just a tool for God to do His works in dentistry. 


It was such an empowering message over the weekend, to be clothed in God's clothing. That's all we need. God has prepared the garments for us, garments of love


      " And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." -Colossians 3: 14


Love binds all other virtues together, v12 Compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. These are how we are to clothe ourselves as Christians. To wear these garments and bless other people through it. People will be drawn to love, especially God's love. 


I can't help but feel so humbled by Grace, humbled because I know I often fall short of wearing these garments. My previous post is a good example of that and a reminder to myself that I often fall short of showing God's love. It is for me to consciously endeavour to clothe myself in the garments of the Lord. 








Tuesday, May 15, 2012

ONE SCUM

Just saying.. I'm writing this in a very very emotional state of mind, yet for some reason, rational. I'd like to be a girl and kick up a big fuss but I'm trying to find that patience in me to not. If you guys know me well enough, I'm GENERALLY a very nice person and I let things pass, not to say I let people walk all over me, but I let things pass. But sometimes when someone crosses paths with me and chooses to step on my toes, not once but all the time, then I have to apologise, cause this GENERALLY nice person will NOT BE ANYMORE.

Think of the most obnoxious person you've ever met in your life, multiply that by ten and place the most annoying face you can think of on that person, then piece that with the fact that he uses God's word against you to speak DOWN to you and not embody a single trait of God's word, yes.. place that with the fact that he is rude and arrogant too. (ok. you get my point)

Let's just say I had to work with such a person while organising an event, and it is THE MOST unpleasant experience ever. So much so that I don't even want to be a part of this anymore. It breaks my heart to say this, but I just can't find any "nice-ness" in me anymore to look this person in the eye without my blood boiling. And in true spirit of a lady, when you meet a prick as such, you do not confront, (because all well brought up ladies should never), but you treat them indifferently. You do not be mean to them or say anything inappropriate, because it's not befitting for a lady to do so.. So in your (rather, mine) sphere of life, this person VANISHES. i.e.: In my dictionary, he is non-existent.

So here's my dilemma, he's in the ex-co of the organisation that I'm in, and I'm in the ex-co too. What should I do? In all honesty, everyone would tell me to forgive and forget and you don't get to choose who you work with in life. Of course, I do understand that, but we are also given a choice to NOT WORK with them. To subject myself to anymore of his hypocrisy and arrogance would need me to be an eternal hypocrite, because I can't even bring myself to be politically correct and socially polite to him. (YES. you now know the extent to HOW PEEVED I AM)

I want to step down from my responsibilities, I'll tidy the knots and hand it over to them, but I really cannot see myself working with such a scum, I really can't. I have never felt so much anger towards one single person and I can't bring myself to be angry over someone unworthy of existence in my sphere of life.

I don't even know what the Christian thing to do is. Really.

On the brighter side of things, I'm so so blessed to have wonderful friends who so sacrificially offer their help. I'm so blessed to have friends who understand and care.. You know who you are. And of course, I'm so SO Blessed to have a boyfriend who stands up for me, who feels indignant for me, who would, I know, take down any guy who bullies me and comforts me the way I need to be comforted.

Indeed, sometimes you need scums in your life as a reminder of how wonderfully awesome those around you are.

Friday, May 4, 2012

Saw this on a website and decided that I should re-post it! 



You Should Date Someone Who Cares About You
MAY. 3, 2012 By NICO LANG




You should be with someone who values your time and calls when they say they are going to, who shows up on time to a date or texts you if they are going to be late. Spend your time with people who aren’t too important to look up from their phone and stop texting when you are speaking or who know not to answer unimportant calls when you are together. Someone who politely apologizes for taking that important call and knows who to pick up for. Someone who also knows that their parents and their grandparents are important in their life, too, and has a good enough relationship with their family to pick up when they call. Someone who still tells their mother or father “I love you,” even when they are in public, and who can’t wait to tell you, when the time is ready.




Date a person who is chivalrous, not as in “into patriarchy, paternalism and/or oppressing you” but as in someone who isn’t afraid to show they care about you. No matter your gender, be with someone who wants to open the door for you, just to smile as they watch you walk through it, and someone who lets you do the same for them. Someone who will pull out a chair for you or stand up when you leave the table, not because it’s expected of them socially but they want to show you how much your company means to them. Someone who wants to walk you home, not only to make sure you are safe but also because they want to spend more time with you and smile at you as your smile disappears behind the door. Someone who will wait up to hear you got home safe if they can’t walk you home and will ask you to walk them home, because they want to feel protected by you, too.


Seek out a mate who isn’t afraid to hold your hand or put their coat around you when you look cold, who knows that Public Displays of Affection aren’t as important as knowing you are cared for, even in small ways. Put your energy into a person who puts their energy and effort into you, someone who will buy you flowers if you like flowers or knows exactly what book you would want on your birthday. Someone who has listened to your opinions, your hopes and your desires enough to know the things you like and the things you don’t like, the correct ways to show you they care. Someone who knows to ask when you want to be held and caressed and when you want your space, when you want to have sex and what consent is. Someone who knows how important the word “no” is.


Date a person who tells you nice things about yourself and builds up your confidence but challenges you when you need to be challenged. You deserve to be with those who know when to argue and to call you on your bullsh-t, but also know when signals from you tell them to leave you alone and let it be. Someone who won’t let you go to bed angry and is willing to talk about what’s bothering you, if even what’s bothering you doesn’t quite make sense or seem that important to them. Someone who knows that personal relationships aren’t as simple as who is right and who is wrong, that your opinion and perspective are valid, even when the two of you totally disagree. Someone who knows you aren’t always right and they aren’t always right but are willing to affirm the person your belief system, because your opinions are a part of the person they adore.


Spend time with people who don’t make you choose between being friends and being lovers, who you feel like you can genuinely have fun and be comfortable with. You need to be able to be casual, hang out in your pajama pants and be like buddies sometimes, while also valuing the romantic side of your connection. Someone who (when you get that far) understands what balance is in a relationship, that sometimes you need to go out and do your own thing. Someone who trusts you to make your own choices and to come home and be with them at the end of the night without the need to interrogate you, or if you are in an open relationship, someone who always trusts that your connection is stronger. Someone who gets that being together and waking up together every day is a choice, one you have to continue to make and continue to commit to.


Date someone who wants what you want, who is open to the idea of the relationship you desire with another human being. You need to be with people who are open to what you have to give to them and are willing to match it. Someone who has communicated enough on the subject to know what you are looking for with someone, whether that be a fling, friends with benefits or a person to bring home to your parents or chosen family. Someone who isn’t afraid to give you what you want in life but also respects themselves enough to have standards and value what they need and deserve in this relationship (or even friendship!) Someone who isn’t afraid to let you know how they feel: about you, about life, about what’s important to them, about the future or about whatever is on their mind.


Life is short, so you shouldn’t waste it on someone who doesn’t understand you, refuses to try and get you, won’t put in the time for you, who is rude to you, your friends or to other people and doesn’t even call you. Don’t worry about if they read, if they don’t read, if they watch movies or if they’re into the wrong kind of music; worry about whether they care that you do. Details are important, but if the world ends this year, it’ll be more important to say you wasted the time you have left with someone who cares. TC mark

Sunday, April 29, 2012

Clinic Blessings

I used to think that being a dentist, I'd be able to bless people's life. I had all the intention to do what I can to make their lives better, to give them a gift of wonderful smiles, little did I know that the person whose life would change and would be blessed is not just theirs, but mine.

I finally have taste of what it is to be a true clinician. It doesn't matter anymore how well I perform on a dummy head, it doesn't matter anymore what my grades are, what matters is that my patients feel as comfortable as they can, what matters is that their well-being is taken care of, their concerns are addressed. What I thought being a dentist would be has turned out to be a dream come true, only better.

I enjoy my time with my patients, I love talking to them and doing what I can to give them my best. From 8 to 80, regardless of age, they've blessed my life and taught me lessons I never dreamt of having. It has truly been rewarding. I have been taught lessons of patience, of communication, of understanding, of genuine concern and most of all, love.

A patient of mine shared her love story with me and to see a 60 year old lady light up when she talks about her partner just brings so much joy to my heart. She talks to him like they are teenage lovebirds just falling in love again, she talks about him like he is such a treasure to her, he goes beyond the extra mile to care for her and to love her and despite her physical ailments, choose to marry her and take care of her. I respect that love, that intense chemistry and companionship. "How wonderful would that be for every girl to find that perfect man." those were her exact words.

For her, it was just a matter of marrying her best friend. As much as that may sound cliche to many, are words of true wisdom and experience. Girls in this day and age are looking for a guy to TREAT her like a princess, when what they should be looking for is a man who would CHERISH them like a princess. It is for a man to care for her and love her even more than the way he would care for himself. It is for a man to love her selflessly and put her in mind before anything else. These men are rare.

I wonder whether it is because we have STOPPED expecting. I know there are men out there who are like that and I know there possibly are men out there in the making to be like that. I am dating my best friend and he happens to be one of them.

Monday, April 2, 2012

Always a child

I was at Church today and had a chat with one of the ladies, a young mother of two. It was interesting, her thoughts on motherhood and how it exemplified our relationship with Christ, the more she told me, the more I realised, how terrible a child I am.

She gave me an analogy, how she wanted to take her two year old to SciTech for a day out, yet on the way to SciTech, her child kept pointing to a park and said "park, park, park". It was exasperating for her cause she wanted to take her child to a place that was more fun and more exciting than a park, yet all the child wanted was her way. She said, "I want to take her to a better place that would be ten times better than what she wants". 

Doesn't it just sound so familiar, how we as children think we know better and let our folly and ignorance get in the way of God's greater plans. Simply because we think we know better, or we're too stubborn and want our way. Isn't it so true that sometimes we fail to see His greater plans, we turn away from them to fulfil our own desires. How foolish are we.. How foolish have I been. 

She said, ''it's already so hard with a child, we know we love them to bits, yet we have to discipline them at times too.'' We want the best for them, yet they think they know best. Indeed. I image it to be so hard and tough with a child, what more a world of children who not only disobey, but deny, turn away and run from you time and time again. Yet, our God, being so gracious and loving, always chases us and welcomes us with open arms. 

What struck me even more at church today was the reminder that having faith the size of a mustard seed doesn't move mountains. In Mark 11:23 "I tell you the truth, if anyone says to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen, it will be done for him". This verse is often interpreted as "name it and claim it" but what it's trying to tell us is faith in an act itself doesn't move the mountains, but absolute faith in the PERSON that can move the mountains does, and only God can. Having faith in HIM and HIS will, being obedient and walking with Him in life is what will move mountains. 

It was such a timely reminder of why I'm here and what I'm here for. It such a wonderful Palm Sunday message to bring home and to hold dear that even though I'm the child of God that so often chooses the park over His better plans, yet He still patiently waits for me to follow Him. I am such a blessed child, a child that has been given so much more than I deserve, only because of His grace. 

Sunday, March 25, 2012

"A Letter to my children about marriage"

Saw this online and thought it'd be nice to share.. given the new age take on marriage, I think this is a good reminder that marriage isn't all rosy and sweet, but a journey that may be arduous and tumultuous and it is for us to "make the spark happen", for us to rough it out and for us to hold on to a holy covenant that marriage is exclusive, between a man and woman, for life. I want to make a home with the man I commit to loving for the rest of my life, I want our children to grow in a safe and loving home that they too may see the true essence and beauty of marriage.

A Letter to My Children About Marriage


Dear Children,
Should the Lord give you the good gift of a husband or wife, and I hope He does, there are a few things I want you to know. Things that you may not hear from anyone else, and certainly not on TV or other media. Sadly, your church may not even tell you.

Marriage, sweet little people, is not for the purpose of your happiness. Happy as I want you to be and hope you will be, you must yet understand that marriage is God’s design and His purposes must be pursued in order for you to be truly happy. His end is holiness and He will use all things in a life devoted to Him to fulfill that end.

To my girls:
Marry a man whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, he is not hard to please. Admire him, cheer him on and show gratitude, and he will fall over himself trying to please you. Smile often, speak well of him always, and do whatever necessary to try and maintain a pleasant mood about you so that it transfers to your home, making it a place where he and your children love to be.
You’ll have bad days of course, crying days even, and that’s when you go to your bedroom, kneel on the floor and beg the Lord to carry you. Then get up, get a fresh perspective (crayons will come off the wall), and try again. Above all else, make a home.

To my boys:
Marry a woman whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, she may be hard to please ;-) only if you don’t know “the secret”. What is that? I’m glad you asked. The secret to pleasing your wife is to make her feel safe and treasured. You may have to move out of your comfort zone to do this at times. She won’t always readily translate the oil change to love, though it means that. But let me give you a “secret question”–a question you need to ask her often. It’s not just in the asking, though. Be sure to focus your eyes on hers, maybe even touch her shoulder or face, and then ask: “What’s on your mind these days? “ And then be ready to listen. She wants you to draw her out. She will perceive this as your protection over the matters of her heart. Tenderness, listening, protection. That’s what she wants.

To you all:
If your wife or husband does something really stupid, forgive. If they do it again, forgive again. Forgiveness must be the propelling force in your lives each day. Dwell on the strengths, push out thoughts of their weaknesses. Take every thought captive–choose to love.

Here’s that part you are not going to hear often:
If you find yourself “not happy”, having lost attraction, disinterested, etc., you are not permitted to even think about a divorce. If you find yourselves arguing more and more, don’t think for a minute that “the children will be better off out of this”, because they won’t.

The vows you took on your wedding day were not suggestions. They were covenant vows, before a Holy God, family and friends, to stay with this person the rest of your life, even if you don’t feel like it. You swore a solemn oath and if you can’t live up to it, don’t get married. Decide up front that your marriage is irrevocable. There is far more motivation for getting along if your “marriage house” has no door.

Do not share intimate thoughts or feelings with anyone of the opposite sex. Do not find yourself alone for any length of time with such either.

Divorce is not a “private option”. It will affect multiple families for many generations. When you “separate what God has joined” you permanently injure far more than just yourself.

Guard your marriage as fiercely as you would guard your own life. Treat your spouse as an extension of your flesh, just as God sees you. Treat your spouse like other family members. You know, “you gotta love ‘em, they’re the only family you’ve got”.

I want you to be happy, I surely do. But I will pray for you to be holy.

Friday, March 9, 2012

Can we be more conscious?

Sometimes, just sometimes, I wish I could be apathetic, I wish I could not care, I wish my heart won't feel the pain, I wish I didn't cry at thoughts like that. Every time I watch the news, I hear of reports in the world of children being enslaved, of kids suffering the consequences of their negligent parents, of children being taken into child armies and of the many homes and lives lost due to natural disasters. 

It pains my heart every time I hear of it and visually seeing it makes my heartache so bad. I wish I could do something for them, I wish I can take them out of their misery, but I know, with what I have now, I can't do much but pray. To pray for their lives to be saved, for them to know the Lord, for Him to forgive their sins. 

Perhaps it's just me.. But I hope my friends and loved ones will feel the same for the less fortunate, to know how fortunate we are to have what we have and to appreciate the abundance that we enjoy. I wish for people to know that when we complain about the little we have, someone out there, has nothing. When we complain about the stresses of our education, there is a child out there who wishes for one and takes simple pride in a coloring book. When we wake up each morning hating what we do, wishing we could do something else in life, there is someone out there who is waking up wondering when their next meal will come. 

Maybe it's inconsequential to us, to our lives and what we do, but I do hope we stand up for injustice when we see it. I hope we feel indignant for the skilled worker that gets paid pittance for hours of laborious work for something that is charged 2000 times more. When we buy the next chocolate bar, coffee beans, cinnamon powder or even peppercorns, give thanks for what we have because someone spent hours harvesting, rolling and roasting them before they got to us, buy FAIR-TRADE even if it costs more. 

I just pray for more consciousness amongst this younger generation, I pray for people's heart to change and to have a social conscience. I pray that even though these people may seem to have very big problems in life, that they may receive Christ, because sin is a problem bigger than all of that, the absence of God in their lives is of greater urgency. 

Just like in Mark 2: 1-12

       1 "A few days later, when Jesus again entered Capernaum, the people heard that he had come home.
      2 So many gathered that there was no room left, not even outside the door, and he preached the word to them.
      3 Some men came, bringing to him a paralytic, carried by four of them.
      4 Since they could not get him to Jesus because of the crowd, they made an opening in the roof above Jesus and, after digging through it, lowered the mat the paralyzed man was lying on.
     5 When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic, 'Son, your sins are forgiven.'
     6 Now some teachers of the law were sitting there, thinking to themselves,
     7 'Why does this fellow talk like that? He's blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?'
     8 Immediately Jesus knew in his spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts, and he said to them, 'Why are you thinking these things?
     9 Which is easier: to say to the paralytic, 'Your sins are forgiven,' or to say, 'Get up, take your mat and walk'?
   10 But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins . . . .' He said to the paralytic,
    11 I'Il tell you, get up, take your mat and go home.'
    12 He got up, took his mat and walked out in full view of them all. This amazed everyone and they praised God, saying, 'We have never seen anything like this!"


Indeed, What is greater than our physical problems and circumstances, is our sin that paralyses us, our sin that can only be forgiven by God alone, our lives that can only be redeemed by Jesus's death for us. I pray for God's mercy to be upon them, upon the unfortunate and for those who yet to know Christ, accept him and have their sins forgiven.