I've had a valuable weekend. To be taught a lesson on graciousness and love. SMA conference was such a blessing, just speaking to people in my profession, Christian dentists who uphold the value of Christian healthcare, who live by the word and for the word in our profession. It's not just about being a Christian in healthcare, but being Christian Healthcare. Doing every single thing for the Lord and through the Lord.
I have often just relied on my own strength to achieve something, but how silly of me to think that God doesn't care about the little things I do. He does. He cares about every single thing that I do in dentistry, He'll use every moment to bless others and to show others His grace. It's not me in dentistry, I'm just a tool for God to do His works in dentistry.
It was such an empowering message over the weekend, to be clothed in God's clothing. That's all we need. God has prepared the garments for us, garments of love
" And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." -Colossians 3: 14
Love binds all other virtues together, v12 Compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. These are how we are to clothe ourselves as Christians. To wear these garments and bless other people through it. People will be drawn to love, especially God's love.
I can't help but feel so humbled by Grace, humbled because I know I often fall short of wearing these garments. My previous post is a good example of that and a reminder to myself that I often fall short of showing God's love. It is for me to consciously endeavour to clothe myself in the garments of the Lord.
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
ONE SCUM
Just saying.. I'm writing this in a very very emotional state of mind, yet for some reason, rational. I'd like to be a girl and kick up a big fuss but I'm trying to find that patience in me to not. If you guys know me well enough, I'm GENERALLY a very nice person and I let things pass, not to say I let people walk all over me, but I let things pass. But sometimes when someone crosses paths with me and chooses to step on my toes, not once but all the time, then I have to apologise, cause this GENERALLY nice person will NOT BE ANYMORE.
Think of the most obnoxious person you've ever met in your life, multiply that by ten and place the most annoying face you can think of on that person, then piece that with the fact that he uses God's word against you to speak DOWN to you and not embody a single trait of God's word, yes.. place that with the fact that he is rude and arrogant too. (ok. you get my point)
Let's just say I had to work with such a person while organising an event, and it is THE MOST unpleasant experience ever. So much so that I don't even want to be a part of this anymore. It breaks my heart to say this, but I just can't find any "nice-ness" in me anymore to look this person in the eye without my blood boiling. And in true spirit of a lady, when you meet a prick as such, you do not confront, (because all well brought up ladies should never), but you treat them indifferently. You do not be mean to them or say anything inappropriate, because it's not befitting for a lady to do so.. So in your (rather, mine) sphere of life, this person VANISHES. i.e.: In my dictionary, he is non-existent.
So here's my dilemma, he's in the ex-co of the organisation that I'm in, and I'm in the ex-co too. What should I do? In all honesty, everyone would tell me to forgive and forget and you don't get to choose who you work with in life. Of course, I do understand that, but we are also given a choice to NOT WORK with them. To subject myself to anymore of his hypocrisy and arrogance would need me to be an eternal hypocrite, because I can't even bring myself to be politically correct and socially polite to him. (YES. you now know the extent to HOW PEEVED I AM)
I want to step down from my responsibilities, I'll tidy the knots and hand it over to them, but I really cannot see myself working with such a scum, I really can't. I have never felt so much anger towards one single person and I can't bring myself to be angry over someone unworthy of existence in my sphere of life.
I don't even know what the Christian thing to do is. Really.
On the brighter side of things, I'm so so blessed to have wonderful friends who so sacrificially offer their help. I'm so blessed to have friends who understand and care.. You know who you are. And of course, I'm so SO Blessed to have a boyfriend who stands up for me, who feels indignant for me, who would, I know, take down any guy who bullies me and comforts me the way I need to be comforted.
Indeed, sometimes you need scums in your life as a reminder of how wonderfully awesome those around you are.
Think of the most obnoxious person you've ever met in your life, multiply that by ten and place the most annoying face you can think of on that person, then piece that with the fact that he uses God's word against you to speak DOWN to you and not embody a single trait of God's word, yes.. place that with the fact that he is rude and arrogant too. (ok. you get my point)
Let's just say I had to work with such a person while organising an event, and it is THE MOST unpleasant experience ever. So much so that I don't even want to be a part of this anymore. It breaks my heart to say this, but I just can't find any "nice-ness" in me anymore to look this person in the eye without my blood boiling. And in true spirit of a lady, when you meet a prick as such, you do not confront, (because all well brought up ladies should never), but you treat them indifferently. You do not be mean to them or say anything inappropriate, because it's not befitting for a lady to do so.. So in your (rather, mine) sphere of life, this person VANISHES. i.e.: In my dictionary, he is non-existent.
So here's my dilemma, he's in the ex-co of the organisation that I'm in, and I'm in the ex-co too. What should I do? In all honesty, everyone would tell me to forgive and forget and you don't get to choose who you work with in life. Of course, I do understand that, but we are also given a choice to NOT WORK with them. To subject myself to anymore of his hypocrisy and arrogance would need me to be an eternal hypocrite, because I can't even bring myself to be politically correct and socially polite to him. (YES. you now know the extent to HOW PEEVED I AM)
I want to step down from my responsibilities, I'll tidy the knots and hand it over to them, but I really cannot see myself working with such a scum, I really can't. I have never felt so much anger towards one single person and I can't bring myself to be angry over someone unworthy of existence in my sphere of life.
I don't even know what the Christian thing to do is. Really.
On the brighter side of things, I'm so so blessed to have wonderful friends who so sacrificially offer their help. I'm so blessed to have friends who understand and care.. You know who you are. And of course, I'm so SO Blessed to have a boyfriend who stands up for me, who feels indignant for me, who would, I know, take down any guy who bullies me and comforts me the way I need to be comforted.
Indeed, sometimes you need scums in your life as a reminder of how wonderfully awesome those around you are.
Friday, May 4, 2012
Saw this on a website and decided that I should re-post it!
Date a person who is chivalrous, not as in “into patriarchy, paternalism and/or oppressing you” but as in someone who isn’t afraid to show they care about you. No matter your gender, be with someone who wants to open the door for you, just to smile as they watch you walk through it, and someone who lets you do the same for them. Someone who will pull out a chair for you or stand up when you leave the table, not because it’s expected of them socially but they want to show you how much your company means to them. Someone who wants to walk you home, not only to make sure you are safe but also because they want to spend more time with you and smile at you as your smile disappears behind the door. Someone who will wait up to hear you got home safe if they can’t walk you home and will ask you to walk them home, because they want to feel protected by you, too.
Seek out a mate who isn’t afraid to hold your hand or put their coat around you when you look cold, who knows that Public Displays of Affection aren’t as important as knowing you are cared for, even in small ways. Put your energy into a person who puts their energy and effort into you, someone who will buy you flowers if you like flowers or knows exactly what book you would want on your birthday. Someone who has listened to your opinions, your hopes and your desires enough to know the things you like and the things you don’t like, the correct ways to show you they care. Someone who knows to ask when you want to be held and caressed and when you want your space, when you want to have sex and what consent is. Someone who knows how important the word “no” is.
Date a person who tells you nice things about yourself and builds up your confidence but challenges you when you need to be challenged. You deserve to be with those who know when to argue and to call you on your bullsh-t, but also know when signals from you tell them to leave you alone and let it be. Someone who won’t let you go to bed angry and is willing to talk about what’s bothering you, if even what’s bothering you doesn’t quite make sense or seem that important to them. Someone who knows that personal relationships aren’t as simple as who is right and who is wrong, that your opinion and perspective are valid, even when the two of you totally disagree. Someone who knows you aren’t always right and they aren’t always right but are willing to affirm the person your belief system, because your opinions are a part of the person they adore.
Spend time with people who don’t make you choose between being friends and being lovers, who you feel like you can genuinely have fun and be comfortable with. You need to be able to be casual, hang out in your pajama pants and be like buddies sometimes, while also valuing the romantic side of your connection. Someone who (when you get that far) understands what balance is in a relationship, that sometimes you need to go out and do your own thing. Someone who trusts you to make your own choices and to come home and be with them at the end of the night without the need to interrogate you, or if you are in an open relationship, someone who always trusts that your connection is stronger. Someone who gets that being together and waking up together every day is a choice, one you have to continue to make and continue to commit to.
Date someone who wants what you want, who is open to the idea of the relationship you desire with another human being. You need to be with people who are open to what you have to give to them and are willing to match it. Someone who has communicated enough on the subject to know what you are looking for with someone, whether that be a fling, friends with benefits or a person to bring home to your parents or chosen family. Someone who isn’t afraid to give you what you want in life but also respects themselves enough to have standards and value what they need and deserve in this relationship (or even friendship!) Someone who isn’t afraid to let you know how they feel: about you, about life, about what’s important to them, about the future or about whatever is on their mind.
Life is short, so you shouldn’t waste it on someone who doesn’t understand you, refuses to try and get you, won’t put in the time for you, who is rude to you, your friends or to other people and doesn’t even call you. Don’t worry about if they read, if they don’t read, if they watch movies or if they’re into the wrong kind of music; worry about whether they care that you do. Details are important, but if the world ends this year, it’ll be more important to say you wasted the time you have left with someone who cares.
You Should Date Someone Who Cares About You
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You should be with someone who values your time and calls when they say they are going to, who shows up on time to a date or texts you if they are going to be late. Spend your time with people who aren’t too important to look up from their phone and stop texting when you are speaking or who know not to answer unimportant calls when you are together. Someone who politely apologizes for taking that important call and knows who to pick up for. Someone who also knows that their parents and their grandparents are important in their life, too, and has a good enough relationship with their family to pick up when they call. Someone who still tells their mother or father “I love you,” even when they are in public, and who can’t wait to tell you, when the time is ready.
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You should be with someone who values your time and calls when they say they are going to, who shows up on time to a date or texts you if they are going to be late. Spend your time with people who aren’t too important to look up from their phone and stop texting when you are speaking or who know not to answer unimportant calls when you are together. Someone who politely apologizes for taking that important call and knows who to pick up for. Someone who also knows that their parents and their grandparents are important in their life, too, and has a good enough relationship with their family to pick up when they call. Someone who still tells their mother or father “I love you,” even when they are in public, and who can’t wait to tell you, when the time is ready.
Date a person who is chivalrous, not as in “into patriarchy, paternalism and/or oppressing you” but as in someone who isn’t afraid to show they care about you. No matter your gender, be with someone who wants to open the door for you, just to smile as they watch you walk through it, and someone who lets you do the same for them. Someone who will pull out a chair for you or stand up when you leave the table, not because it’s expected of them socially but they want to show you how much your company means to them. Someone who wants to walk you home, not only to make sure you are safe but also because they want to spend more time with you and smile at you as your smile disappears behind the door. Someone who will wait up to hear you got home safe if they can’t walk you home and will ask you to walk them home, because they want to feel protected by you, too.
Seek out a mate who isn’t afraid to hold your hand or put their coat around you when you look cold, who knows that Public Displays of Affection aren’t as important as knowing you are cared for, even in small ways. Put your energy into a person who puts their energy and effort into you, someone who will buy you flowers if you like flowers or knows exactly what book you would want on your birthday. Someone who has listened to your opinions, your hopes and your desires enough to know the things you like and the things you don’t like, the correct ways to show you they care. Someone who knows to ask when you want to be held and caressed and when you want your space, when you want to have sex and what consent is. Someone who knows how important the word “no” is.
Date a person who tells you nice things about yourself and builds up your confidence but challenges you when you need to be challenged. You deserve to be with those who know when to argue and to call you on your bullsh-t, but also know when signals from you tell them to leave you alone and let it be. Someone who won’t let you go to bed angry and is willing to talk about what’s bothering you, if even what’s bothering you doesn’t quite make sense or seem that important to them. Someone who knows that personal relationships aren’t as simple as who is right and who is wrong, that your opinion and perspective are valid, even when the two of you totally disagree. Someone who knows you aren’t always right and they aren’t always right but are willing to affirm the person your belief system, because your opinions are a part of the person they adore.
Spend time with people who don’t make you choose between being friends and being lovers, who you feel like you can genuinely have fun and be comfortable with. You need to be able to be casual, hang out in your pajama pants and be like buddies sometimes, while also valuing the romantic side of your connection. Someone who (when you get that far) understands what balance is in a relationship, that sometimes you need to go out and do your own thing. Someone who trusts you to make your own choices and to come home and be with them at the end of the night without the need to interrogate you, or if you are in an open relationship, someone who always trusts that your connection is stronger. Someone who gets that being together and waking up together every day is a choice, one you have to continue to make and continue to commit to.
Date someone who wants what you want, who is open to the idea of the relationship you desire with another human being. You need to be with people who are open to what you have to give to them and are willing to match it. Someone who has communicated enough on the subject to know what you are looking for with someone, whether that be a fling, friends with benefits or a person to bring home to your parents or chosen family. Someone who isn’t afraid to give you what you want in life but also respects themselves enough to have standards and value what they need and deserve in this relationship (or even friendship!) Someone who isn’t afraid to let you know how they feel: about you, about life, about what’s important to them, about the future or about whatever is on their mind.
Life is short, so you shouldn’t waste it on someone who doesn’t understand you, refuses to try and get you, won’t put in the time for you, who is rude to you, your friends or to other people and doesn’t even call you. Don’t worry about if they read, if they don’t read, if they watch movies or if they’re into the wrong kind of music; worry about whether they care that you do. Details are important, but if the world ends this year, it’ll be more important to say you wasted the time you have left with someone who cares.
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